Is it just me or are anyone else’s friends all getting into relationships?
Inevitably, there will come a time when you realise that all of your friends are getting into relationships while you’re not. It becomes a little more obvious during Christmas, perhaps it’s because the holiday season inspires people to be a little more romantic. Although, it does make sad, little me look more depressing.
While I’m not really an adult yet, I do know that there does seem to be a belief that it’s sad to be single during the holiday season (yes, I learned this from Friends. Best show ever, amirite?). Anyway, I’ve always been content with my single life, but now that so many people around me are getting into relationships, it’s possible that I’m feeling a little left out.
So for those alone souls out there, what do you do when everyone around you is getting into relationships?
Make the most of being single. Many people may argue that being alone is incredibly lonely, but I find that being alone helps me discover more about myself: my own hobbies and interests, as well as what I might look for in a potential partner. I won’t lie, I do think about what it would be like to have a boyfriend from time to time, but I’m enjoying not having to worry too much about my appearance or remember dates, gifts etc.
Try to have fun on your own. Now, I don’t know about you guys, but I treasure all the time that I have to myself. This is probably because I’m more of an introvert and I have a limit as to how much time I spend in a group setting or in someone else’s company. There is so much you could do on your own: read a book, watch a movie, travel, explore, and even though these are all things you could do in the company of someone else, it’s a whole different experience to do them on your own.
Think about the money you’re saving. This may seem like a strange tip but young people in the early stages of their relationship tend to spend quite a bit of money on dates and gifts, especially when they lack the understanding of the value of money.
This is true for me especially, but learn to love and accept yourself before you even consider getting into a relationship. In many cases, young people seek validation from their relationships rather than from themselves and it turns into a vicious cycle in which they can’t stand to not be in a relationship. From what I’ve heard, when you find self-love, you’ll be able to have a happier and more fulfilling relationship.
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